well the shit hit the fan just a bit last night.
jason let kane and jude stay home alone when he came to pick me up. we had talked a lot about it, and we decided that this year would be a good time to start letting them stay home alone just a little bit, so they could get used to it. kane is ten and jude is seven, and they know how to behave and all that, so we figure it's not that big a deal. so far, they've stayed home alone a couple of times, both during the day, not for more than an hour, and everything has been fine. jason told them yesterday that he'd be gone for an hour, and reminded them of the home alone rules (no guests, no leaving the house, no opening the door for anyone we don't know, no cooking, no messing with knives, etc.).
when we got home, the front door was open, and i asked jason if he had left it open; he said no. so we went in, and everything was fine. jude was watching tv, and kane was on the computer. i asked about the door being open, and jude said he forgot to close it. so i decided to just drop it and not pursue the whole yes-but-why-was-it-open-in-the-first-place deal. then, i heard kane on the phone saying, "hey, mom, it's kane. i just wanted to let you know that they're home now, so everything is okay." jason and i looked at each other and looked at kane. eventually, mary wanted to talk to jude, so jason took that opportunity to try and find out what was going on from kane. kane started crying, and said that they needed to call jason but didn't have his cell phone number, so they called mary. she didn't answer, so they left a message, and then called nana (mary's mom, who thinks that kane and jude are two precious, delicate jewels that she must caress and coddle until they're 45 years old), and left a message on her phone. turns out they told mary (in the message) that jason had left them at home all alone for three hours and that they were scared.
cut to steam coming out of jason's ears. he told mary that he had only been gone an hour, and that he thought they could handle it, and that they had begged to stay home and told him over and over again that they didn't want to go. he told her that they obviously couldn't handle it, and that he wouldn't make the mistake of leaving them home alone again.
he then told kane and jude that what they did made him look like an asshole, and that they obviously weren't ready to be treated like big kids, so he wasn't going to treat them like big kids any more. they cried and generally freaked out (ew, can you remember that sinking, puking feeling in your stomach when you were a kid and you really messed up and got caught?), and got sent to bed an hour early.
all in all, it's not that big a deal, but i just don't want nana thinking that we don't take good care of them. because we DO take good care of them. and i can't really understand what happened. i think they may have thought that making jason look bad might make their mom think they need to move back in with her. lately they've been telling us and mary what a great school system vestavia has (where their mom lives). and we're like, "no, they DON'T have a great school system." that's where they were when they wanted kane to take drugs and jude to repeat kindergarten.
i think they just miss their mom, and want to move back in with her. but i just don't think that's going to happen, for several reasons. first, they're doing so much better with us than they were when they lived with her. they're making better grades, and learning more, and living a stable, normal lifestyle. second, i think mary is accustomed to her lifestyle now. seriously, i don't think she wants or would let them move back in with her. she's used to doing whatever the hell she wants to do, and having peace and quiet, and sitting around and drinking coffee and smoking cigarettes and shit. i think she probably originally thought that we wouldn't be able to handle taking care of them, and that we'd want to send them back. but now she's seen that we're doing a better job of it than she was, so she doesn't want them to move back in, because the standard is set to high now. before, she could just act like she didn't know why the hell they were sick all the time, or making bad grades, or not doing their work. now, they're living with us, staying healthy most of the time, making great grades, and doing most, if not all, of their work. so she knows if they went back to the old ways, it would be obvious that it's her fault.
i think i had a third, but i can't remember it now.
i've just had so much to say lately. i'm sorry that these posts have been so long and bizarre lately.